The Worst Grief Is The One No One Sees

Grief adjusts very well to our soul when we open it all the way. If it finds an ever-growing hole, it can make itself at home.

But it feels most comfortable in solitude. When we are alone, we no longer have any reason to fake and therefore put ourselves completely in its power.

On the other hand, grief is a condition that can make others start to worry about you, call you, take an interest in making you feel better, make you feel good again… But with this attitude, they unconsciously strengthen your situation, because you Decide to be alone when you know you are surrounded.

You isolate yourself in a comfortable bubble of pain that others are trying to burst.

Grief makes us feel bad, but on the other hand it gives us a false peace, immobility and comfort in pain. We feel that we do not need to take any new risks.

Why does grief become resistant?

Grief can become like an addiction. The same thing happens with grief as with a substance. If the person experiences it alone and does not want to share it, he attaches himself to his existence without any criteria or obstacles. This is partly logical because we do not want to be seen when we are sad and listless.

That is why we are stepping into a dynamic of isolation. If this goes on for a long time, we can contribute to the onset of depression – the pain that becomes a shadow.

How to fight grief?

To avoid ending up in a depressed state, we advise you to prevent grief from establishing itself within you. You have to keep making it harder and harder for it:

• To begin with , you should stay away from drama and the people who create it.
• Start creating comfortable situations in life with new people.
• It is important that you feel relaxed, and therefore you need to know how to recognize a friend who is not what he seems.
• Do more things you enjoy: reading, listening to music, playing sports, engaging in crafts… none of this is a waste of time if you remember that you can lose these activities if the grief becomes chronic.
• Ventilate if necessary, without feeling ashamed. Go out and dare to be with people even if you do not feel it… the longing will begin to grow by itself.
• Do not shut yourself off from life. Look at possible changes and even set goals for how you can restart from scratch without hurting others.

You should definitely make it hard for grief!

How to leave room for grief without letting it devour you

During our lives we will experience sad moments; this is inevitable. Let yourself cry, ventilate and be aware that you can break down at any time and that you need to be alone to get through this phase.

But be sure to make it clear to yourself that grief will not leave you alone if you do not set boundaries and insist on getting away from it, because it is not desires that have value, but the actions you perform to leave grief behind you.

So cried. Cry without people seeing if you prefer, but do not forget that these feelings must not be suppressed or make themselves at home in your soul.

Grief feels very much at home in a lonely soul; no one disturbs it and it will not disappear unless a cure is found for it.