I’m Not Faithful To You, I’m Faithful To How I Feel About You
Have you ever asked yourself what it means to be faithful? Different people usually give different answers to this. To be truly faithful, however, has to do with honest intentions and depth in the relationship.
In relationships, we often talk about fidelity because it is a topic that we rightly attach great importance to.
Being faithful is something fundamental in a relationship and the cornerstone for it to be long lasting.
When two people decide to become one and be happy together, they make an active choice; it becomes like a duty where both pull their straw to the stack.
In this way, we shape relationships and maintain them. Through a mutual promise we make together with our partner.
At the same time, we must remember that love is not something we can control; it is something that floats, something we can never captivate…
Being faithful in a relationship where there is love implies that you do not make any sacrifice, nor that you suppress your desire to be with your partner. These tendencies do not arise as long as love is still flourishing.
It becomes an obligation to be faithful
But what does it really mean to be faithful?
When one talks about being faithful, this often means that hidden fears arise; one confuses it with control.
Loyalty in a relationship extends beyond just love and respect. We often base our choices on what is considered moral and correct in society.
If it becomes strenuous to be faithful to the other person, and you constantly think about what you are missing out on, you should see this as a sign that the love is not strong enough.
There are simply not enough emotions to feel satisfied in the relationship.
To be faithful to our feelings
The feelings in a relationship have a great power that can make us just want to be with the person we love, that we just feel motivated to continue to love this person. That there is no one else who occupies our thoughts.
A fidelity that does not arise due to a sense of morality, but which has to do with respect and real feelings, is therefore what we should look for.
To simply be faithful to our true feelings for our partner rather than the person.
For true fidelity is rooted in the feelings you really feel when it comes to love.
True fidelity has nothing to do with control, nor obligations. It has nothing to do with the fear that the person will be with someone else.
Infidelity exists as an indicator that love does not exist, and that love cannot be controlled, no matter how much one wants to control it.
You are faithful to what you feel because this is inevitable, because your interest does not move me to another person, because all thoughts, desires and attention are directed towards the person you love.
