If You’ve Having A Hard Time, I’m Here For You

If you’re having a hard time, I’ll be there for you with all my attention. I will not disappear when you do not need me anymore. I will not just listen to you because I have to or offer you my hand because I expect something in return. If you are going through a difficult time, I will not tell you what you want to hear, I’m telling the truth.

We all have a friend or family member who needs a shoulder to cry on. It’s not that hard to offer, right? We also often believe that it is easier to comfort than to be comforted. But we may not act in the right way even if we think we do. We may make many mistakes that we are not even aware of, not even when we begin to see the consequences.

To just listen to what you want to listen to, to only give half-hearted advice, give advice that you do not follow yourself… does this sound familiar to you? Sometimes when you think you are helping, you actually do the exact opposite. It’s time for you to open your eyes.

If you’re having a hard time, I’ll listen to everything you have to say

Even if you want to reach out to other people, you also have your own problems, which can prevent you from listening properly. You may find most of what they say ridiculous. You do not think about what is happening to them and how this makes them feel. If you do this, you are making a big mistake because you are not giving them proper support.

For a situation like this, it is necessary to use all your empathy. Put yourself in their shoes. Wouldn’t you like them to really listen to you? What would you like them to say to you? What could have helped you in that situation? The answer to these questions will give you the information you need regarding how you can help during these moments.

When listening, avoid answering with clichés, with words that come out when you really do not know what to say and the silence chokes you. “Do not worry”, “This will pass”, “It will get better” etc. These standard answers are things that people say when there is nothing better to say. But you know what? It’s okay if you do not know what to say. You can just listen and ask questions.

You do not always have to give words of encouragement. You can show them your support by being by their side, by not leaving them helpless, by listening to them and trying to understand their problems, but not solving them.

And sometimes it means a lot not to say anything. A simple hug can be much better than empty phrases. Documents and listening are worth a thousand times more.

You feel down, but I’ll be honest

When trying to help others, do not tell them how to act or do things. In most cases, it is much better that you tell them about your own experiences so that they do not feel alone in what they are going through. But when you do this, be honest.

Imagine, for example, that you are with a friend who is going through a difficult time in their relationship. She has had a difficult childhood and all her relationships have been toxic. She suffers from addiction to the person she thinks she loves. How can you help her?

Maybe you’ve been through something similar, so you tell her about your experience. You have also given her some healthy advice regarding the benefits of being single, spending time without being in a love relationship, going out more with friends to distract herself and see that she can be happy without a partner… But do you practice it? you preach?

Many people give very good advice but do the exact opposite themselves, or maybe the council has a price that the person does not want to pay at that time. If you are going to give a suggestion, make sure that it will not give the person even more frustration.

It is also good to be able to perform things that people do not want to hear. They’re going through a tough time, but they will not get better if you can not be honest with them. You must be able to perform both good and bad things. This is the only way you can really help them. Constructive criticism is sometimes much more positive.

It’s not easy to make others feel better, is it? It requires commitment, attention and support where there is no room for lies. All of this can help relieve their pain. It can shed light on the situation of that friend or family member who needs you more than ever at this moment.