As Parents We Are There To Help Our Children

As parents, we have a very important task in helping our children. This is something we probably do not think about when we have children. We do not know what great work awaits us.

It’s not just about taking care of them, feeding them, making them happy… .As parents, we must be there, give them support, make them people who know how to handle a tough world we live in today. A world that will place obstacles in their path, a world that will drag them down as they struggle to get up.

But what are we doing wrong with them? Although it’s hard to admit, when it comes to raising them, we do many things that are not good, but we think they are. Let’s look at who they are!

We parents must be there

Our main commitment as parents is to be there for our children, unconditionally, with love that transcends just about everything.

But put yourself in your children’s situation, because at some point you were in this situation yourself. How was your childhood? Did you have good parents? Was something missing? Do not make the same mistake. It’s time for you to know what you’re there for as a parent:

As parents, we are there to give our children permission to live, but unfortunately many children are born into families where the parents are unfaithful to each other or where there is violence. Your children need to know that they have a right to be, to live and to do.

As parents, we are there to pass on our ideals to our children. We need to inspire them so that they know what to expect, where to turn and who they are when they grow up. Encourage this by saying things like “I know you will accomplish great things”, “I expect great things from you”.

As parents, we are there to transfer life to our children. Sometimes we push them with too much information. But they must have fun too; they must live!

As parents, we are there to give them unconditional love. A love that cannot be compared to anyone else, a love that overcomes all physical and mental barriers. Whatever they do, your love for them should not change.

Now that you know why you as a parent are there, it’s time to put everything you’ve learned into practice. But there is something more important that you need to know, something that we are constantly failing at.

Let us stop bringing out the negative

It is very difficult to see it as a parent, which is why we will put this in perspective from the time we were children. You remember the punishments you received as a child, right? Did you ever hear that you “behave like a child”?

During our childhood we have suffered through punishments and insults. Many times these were given thanks to our childish behavior. But… were we ever children? When could we behave like them? When we got older?

From childhood onwards we have always learned to be older; they do not let us enjoy being children! We must always behave, learn to be older, but… is this the right way?

We believe that with these indications we do good when it is really bad. Instead of motivating, we make our children feel bad. Bad in themselves and angry at us for not knowing how to behave.

They are children, children! They learn and we still learn when we are 20, 30, 40 years old. What can we expect from them?

Let them live, behave like children, let them make mistakes, because you too make mistakes. But most of all, stop focusing on everything they do wrong and start influencing what they do right.

For example, instead of pointing out the mistakes they made when they drew or the fact that they drew on the table, just show them next time that they should use something to protect the furniture.

They do not know what can happen and even if you say so, they will probably forget! But do not influence the negative, reorient yourself towards positive learning.

What kind of mistakes have you made with your children? The most important thing that you need to keep in mind is that you must always be there for them, and also encourage the positive and stop repeating the negative. Ready to be good parents?

Pictures by Pascal Campion and Claudia Tremblay.