Just Seeing Your Face Makes My Day Happy
There are people who capture and enchant our soul. Their faces have such an emotional magnetism, like the surface of a transparent lake that can reflect all the nobility of a good heart. People who make you think, “Just seeing you makes my day happy.”
Psychiatry professor Enrique Rojas says that a personality is always shown in our faces because “a person’s essence is in his face”. Our brain is also nourished based on social skills and emotions, and is perceived and influenced by the strict traits or friendly smiles that surround us.
The purest, most sincere and most meaningful communication is not transmitted with words, but with gestures. Every facial movement is brewed in the depths of our being. It reflects our emotional world and allows us to connect with the people around us, even if we are sometimes not even aware of it. We invite you to reflect on this.
We may be used to hearing “the face is the mirror of the soul”, but it is necessary to clarify some additional aspects that you may find interesting, but also useful. Paul Ekman, a pioneer in psychology in the study of the facial expressions of emotions, explains in one of his studies that faces can lie because the real tension is conveyed in actions.
According to Ekman, people can express up to 18 different smiles. The most genuine is called the “Duchenne smile” (the mouth muscles contract, the mouth pores are raised, there is contraction in the cheeks and wrinkles are produced around the eyes).
Smiles serve as “social lubricants”. But not all smiles or faces are sincere, no matter how attractive they are. Surely you have experienced it yourself at some point. There are small microgests that almost instinctively cause discomfort and mistrust.
As humans, we also have our own saved “gesture experiences”. Expressions from parents, friends or ex-partners are stored in the brain along with an emotional component of either pleasure or dissatisfaction.
All this almost instinctively determines the way in which some people and their faces can produce one or another feeling with us. Our Face is a whole book of complex gestures that others interpret according to their own experiences.
Your child, with his reasoning, toothless smile, makes your heart happy almost immediately. Your friends offer comfort, friendship and loyalty. Gently giving them a puff makes your face light up. There are faces that produce positive emotions because the bond we have with them is enriching and positive.
Although evolutionary faces are designed to convey positive emotions, socialize and connect with our closest circle of friends, only a few people succeed in establishing a special bond with us.
Now note how the bonds are created in the relationships that are most important to us. Emotional openness is the first step towards establishing the right “connection” with the person we love. Within this dimension we find the ability to establish solid trust, provide recognition and the correct expression of emotions to strengthen and build bonds.
Empathy is the art of understanding and being close. It enables communication, comfort and problem solving. It is a vital dimension that is not only conveyed through our words. The look that says we understand and perceive is a great way to embrace the other person to convey ” I understand, I’m here with you.”
A band based on mutual trust and respect is the best thing to build positive relationships on. In these bands, there is no need to control, to steal spaces or to demand continuous and obsessed attention.
In conclusion, we can say that when you love or appreciate a person, you will always search for his or her expression. It is a mirror in which you see yourself because you feel mutually valued and loved, and it makes you happy.
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Pictures by Claudia Tremblay and Pascal Campion.
