The Destructive Power Of Underestimation
Think about it for a few seconds; How many “nos” have you encountered in your life? Certainly some have hurt more than others. But if you have the courage, they will be nothing but obstacles to overcome on your way to fate.
Maybe many people around you underestimate you. It is common for this to be done with very little evidence. Despite this, it is a behavior that hurts you. It can convince you that you are not really capable of doing certain things.
In our daily lives, we not only encounter other people’s judgments, but must also be aware of whether we are underestimating ourselves. And that’s one of the most destructive things we can do.
Humility and underestimation
Many of us have been taught the healthy value of humility. The value of appreciating the importance of simple things, of being grateful and not bragging about our successes. But we must keep in mind that the educational principle of humility can be taken to extreme levels that are not as positive.
Some people believe that humility is limited to silencing our strengths for the benefit of others. That it is about “giving in”, being simple or hiding our “ego ” above everything else. It is interesting to see how many people are currently hiding their talents and successes due to this rock hard value, which limits their personal growth through their underestimation of themselves.
Believing that you can succeed beyond and more than others may run counter to the idea that “we brag too much about ourselves”. And if we talk loudly about our desires, we can notice that others set limits for us because they think we are too proud to reach such heights.
But… why not try? Sometimes people do not understand that humility also implies that we know our own limits and are aware of where we are, what we have and what we want to become. And no one, absolutely no one, has the right to set boundaries for you or cut your wings.
If they are not listening, do not talk to them. If they do not believe in you, focus all your energy on believing in yourself. Behaving in this way is not arrogant or proud; it just means you are a whole person with your own ideas.
The most common types of underestimation
It is important that you keep these simple aspects in mind to understand when you are underestimating yourself. You will probably realize that these are things we all did at some point, so keep that in mind.
Prioritize when you are met by the opinions of others
It’s a risk. If you value what your family, friends or a partner say about your own ideas and feelings, it is undoubtedly a sign that you are underestimating yourself. Try not to always please them, be compliant or agree with them; feel your own values and act on them.
Do not compare yourself with others
You are you. What others have done or achieved is beyond your personal sphere. It does not matter and should not act as your guide. You should listen to and take care of yourself in order to offer yourself the best possible support and strengthen your self-confidence.
Who do you interact with? How are the people around you?
Stop and think about how you feel within your social circle. Do they support you? Are they listening to you? Always develop healthy relationships that allow you to be yourself; which offers you a good quality of life and which strengthens your growth as a person.
You are your own priority
To prioritize yourself over everything else in life is not to be selfish. If you are not happy, you will surely be incapable of offering the best of yourself to others. Frustration, dissatisfaction… they are dimensions that shape our self-confidence, which fill us with negative emotions. They are aspects that clearly affect all our relationships.
Value yourself just as you deserve to be valued. Avoid underestimating yourself. Because if you do not believe in yourself, no one else will. Allow the light to shine around you, show your strengths and talents, climb to the top and touch the stars if that’s what you really want. No one should stop you.
