Self-righteous People Rarely Get To The Top
When we say “get to the top”, we are not talking about leading over others by superficial measures. This does not mean that you are the most attractive person. We are not saying that complacent people can not be the most successful in terms of work.
Getting to the top means so much more than that. It means deep, authentic, mental health. To be happy is to be on top. Living life and enjoying it is the most precious thing we can hope for.
The concept of placing less emphasis on ourselves goes hand in hand with unconditional acceptance. When we slim down our ego and remember that we are simple people, we can throw off the pressure of pretending, putting on masks.
If we look closely , the kind of people we really appreciate and admire are those who are genuine. They accept themselves and are confident in who they are. They try to improve, but do not tell themselves that they should not be who they are.
On the contrary, they find positive value in who they are. When we are psychologically vulnerable to the world, when we cut down on our ego and love ourselves just as we are, that’s when we are at the top.
When we attribute value to people based on what they have or what they have achieved, we make a mistake. We make another mistake when we value ourselves based on certain traits. If we do not accept ourselves for who we are, we will suffer.
External things cannot add value to a person. As a clumsy example, we can say that a fruit card is worth just as much if it has some fruits with certain imperfections. In other words, we cannot base our personal value on an action or aspect.
All people have an amazing ability to love, and we are all worth the same. Neither ethnicity nor gender, intelligence or money, makes any difference.
If we are self-righteous people, we must visualize ourselves without all the things that are said to make us vulnerable. In this way, we can free ourselves from the press that comes from believing that we need specific traits, being in a certain way or having certain things. They are like clothes that disappear when you are naked.
For example, if I am the type of person who believes that a good body gives me higher value, I should imagine without my body. I have to visualize myself as an unattractive but extremely happy person. After all, good looks do not necessarily mean that we enjoy life.
We can do the same with other external traits. Some examples are intelligence or success. If we can see ourselves as happy but unintelligent or unsuccessful people, we will be less dependent on the “clothes” we hide behind.
We can be more flexible and less strict towards our imperfections. After all, these imperfections can be found in every body and every soul.
We will be happy no matter what things we own. We will be at peace with ourselves and our surroundings, because we will not feel the need to create a certain image so that others will accept us. Paradoxically, it is only then that others will truly accept us.
So the key to our health and happiness is to stop being complacent people. We must tell ourselves that we are people who are worthwhile, but for that matter do not be complacent.
It may sound contradictory, but it’s true. Tell yourself that you are excellent but replaceable. That attitude gives us a mental break. We have nothing to prove; we only love ourselves for who we are.
