I Listen To Everyone, But I Decide For Myself
There are some songs that say that life is better understood over a cup of coffee with good friends. Maybe it’s because the best conversations and the most useful advice come in these situations. When I have to make an important decision, these coffee cups are actually pure energy. With the coffee, I listen to my friends, even though in the end I always decide for myself.
This coffee moment can be exchanged for all the other intimate moments you spend with people you care about. Having contact with the important people in your life is extremely beneficial to your emotional health. It helps you deal with complicated situations that you have to deal with every day.
Letting your inner self express how it feels for the people in your immediate social circle has different benefits. This is especially true in uncomfortable situations where you feel very frustrated. Many difficult roads will open up in front of you, and having company on your journey will give you stability.
The biggest advantage of being heard is being able to listen to other perspectives. Your problems overwhelm you, put pressure on you and weigh you down responsibly, so the other person’s point of view can help you get through the unknown.
Imagine that you have a job and that you like what you do. But there are some reasons why you might want to quit your job, such as being closer to your family. In this situation, you are offered another job that has nothing to do with what you want to do, but it allows you to be closer to your loved ones. What decision do you make?
It is very difficult to find yourself in the middle of all this and understand what each decision would mean. That’s why you go to the people who are always there for you and tell you everything. They can give you their perspectives and help you see the different pros and cons you did not see before, and in the end you can make the decision yourself.
Every time you make a decision, there is always a risk that you will make a mistake. A change always involves a risk of losing something, and that is something you have to accept. As a consequence, here comes the other big advantage: the more problems that cloud your vision, the more you will need the strength and wisdom of other people.
How many times have you wanted someone to listen to you, when all you were really looking for was the strength to make a decision? I decide for myself, yes, but sometimes I need a push, a hug, a supportive word, that someone else says that what will happen, will happen.
Other people can thus influence your final decision. Above all, their tender advice reminds you that they love you and that they are only trying to help you arrive at what is best for you.
Behind the whole idea “I listen to everyone, but I decide for myself” is the fact that one’s own life decisions can depend on many people, but that the consequences are always one’s own.
As I said, it is very beneficial to let other people contribute their views on certain alternatives, but we are the sole owners of our documents. No one else is responsible for anything that only affects you. No one else is responsible for the mistakes of your decisions, and no one else will carry the weight of the path you choose.
So with all this in mind, do not deny yourself the chance to listen to someone else just because you do not agree with what he says or because you think his opinions do not come from kindness. It is good to open your mind to other perspectives, as long as you do not completely lose your own. You know what you need and that you must get it. You can only live for yourself, decide for yourself and act for yourself.
