Do Not Be Where You Can Not Be Yourself

Do not be where you can not be yourself. Being loyal to your own identity and your own values ​​and having self-respect is the most important thing. Life is already complicated enough, so you should not let others affect your self-esteem to force you to fit in where you do not belong and do not feel good about yourself.

What do we mean when we say “be yourself”? Strange as it may seem, many still do not know how to define their personality.

Defining ourselves and knowing our weaknesses and what makes us passionate is also important. Why is this so important? Because by defending our essence and appreciating who we are, we will eventually find more well-being and vitality.

People usually define themselves by what they do: “I am a teacher”, “I am a firefighter” or “I am a parent”. But we are not just what we do. We are also what we dream of, what we have lived, what we do not want and what we expect from life. And all these things deserve to be defended and protected.

The challenge of being yourself every day

You may long to be authentic. You want to be yourself in every decision you make and you want harmony in each of your relationships so that you do not have to resort to lies or give in to things you do not like.

But you almost do not realize that you are not yourself when you agree to do things that you do not feel good about doing. You stop being yourself every time you say “yes” to your partner, relative or other person when you actually needed to and wanted to say no.

Sooner or later you see yourself in the mirror and realize that you have ceased to be yourself to be what others wanted you to be.

Not being yourself leads to suffering

Psychologist Mark Leary, a professor at Duke University , warns us of something very important. When someone perceives their own lack of authenticity, they begin to suffer. In other words, not being yourself can lead to frustration and depression.

• Harvard University conducted a study in which they discovered that a “trendy” phrase in the work environment is ” be authentic “. Even though everyone keeps saying it, you feel compelled to be part of challenging projects, do what the boss says and have very specific goals. All these things are like two-edged swords.
• It is very challenging to be yourself in a tough and competitive environment. A little at a time, anxiety, stress and the feeling that you are wandering away from who you really are begin to manifest in your life.

When you lack authenticity, you force yourself to look for a balance between what you do and what you need. Being loyal to yourself is not easy. You must be confident and make courageous decisions to be faithful to who you are.

Dare to be Yourself

Do not be where you can not be yourself. Do not be where you are not allowed to express your thoughts and values. To live in such a way is meaningless. If you feel that something is hurting your self-esteem, then reflect on the following ideas:

Make decisions based on self-knowledge

• Today, psychology has borrowed many existentialist ideas. One of them reminds us that in order to live an authentic life, you must make a commitment to yourself.
• This means that you take some time to evaluate and reflect on what you do, what you decide on and what you say, to see if it matches who you are.

• You should ask yourself every day: ” Do I feel good about what I have done?”

Remember what you deserve

If you want to be yourself every day of your life, remember what you deserve. Keep your values ​​in mind. Learn from your past, set goals, and most importantly: put yourself first.

We all have the right to live a happy and fulfilling life that is in line with our interests and our passion. The key is to choose where we want to spread our wings without forgetting that we deserve what we dream of.